Articles - Death
Death and Burial Customs
My experience regarding
death began when my son died - such a tumultuous time of sadness,
grief and fear.
When my husband told
me I had sent my son to hell because of our burial custom, I was
What a rude, insensitive
and horrible thing to say!
After that shock, he
then told me that he wasn't sure if he wanted to continue this relationship,
Well those remarks
of his got me thinking, that's for sure. Why would he say such a
I began to think about
the way we hold our burial services -
"When a death
occurs within Maori, it is customary for mourners to cry openly
and publicly with each other - all family and extended family are
expected to return for the Tangihana (funeral), which is usually
held at the family Marae (meeting house), where the deceased is
kept for three days and the coffin is open until the third day.
Local relatives associated with the Marae usually help out in the
kitchen by preparing meals for visitors from afar during the three
day period. Each time someone arrives at the Marae, they must be
welcomed on with a Karanga, and replied to by the visitors (said
in a 'wailing' tone). The whole affair is very sad indeed, and the
bereaved are reminded of this everytime another group of family
or friends, arrive.
On the third
day, the burial service is held and the deceased is usually buried
in the family cemetery which, more often than not, is not far from
the Marae. After the service, a big feast is held whereupon the
deceased is remembered by family and friends. Most of the visitors
leave once the feast is over, but those who stay, have a party to
give the deceased a good sendoff."
I then began to research
the way other cultures bury their deceased and I found that a few
have the same burial custom as Maori. So, will their loved
ones go to hell as well? And if that is the case, then half the
people who die and are buried in the same manner, will go to hell,
according to my husband.
My research still didn't
tell me why my husband said such hurtful remarks though, but luckily
I found the answers to my questions in 'The Psychedelic Experience'
by Timothy Leary, Richard Alpert and Ralph Metzner.
This book is a 'must-have' if you are seeking the 'truth' about
what happens to us when we die, and a copy can be downloaded from
the 'eBook' section of this web site.
So what happens to
the deceased in each scenario above? Where do they go? Read my next
article 'Will we see our loved ones again when we die?' for my thoughts
on this very sensitive subject.
Peace and Light